“She knew now that marriage did not make love. Janie’s first dream was dead, so she became a woman.”
Hurston, Zora Neale. Their Eyes Were Watching God. 1937. New York: Harper Perennial, 2013.
A sadistic approach to womanhood, that you become one once your dreams die. This could be applied to adulthood in general, when you stop imagining you become a grown-up.