“But the devil in this was that the very basis itself put marrying out of the question. His conviction, his apprehension, his obsession, in short wasn’t a privilege he could invite a woman to share; and that consequence of it was precisely what was the matter with him.”
Henry James, “The Beast in the Jungle,” in Major Stories & Essays(New York: Library of America, 1999)
This passage seemed odd to me because he’s stating that he can’t burden a woman with the issues he deals with every day, and that’s why marriage isn’t in the cards for him. However, he does burden May with it as she already knows the secret. It seems like he’s making up excuses to be unhappy, or stressed.